Many of us have spent much of our lives living false, incomplete identities,
protecting the real person each of us really is deep inside because events in
the past may have damaged us and made us mistrusting and fearful. The problem
with living like this is that we’re often incapable of, or unwilling to, accept
love from other human beings, human beings who want to love us, and would if
they could see who we truly are. How can we give and receive love if we are not
genuinely open to others? How can we truly love ourselves or let others love us
if we are not our authentic selves? No matter how fearful or distrusting we may
be, we must choose to open up and let others see us for who we truly are. We
must stop protecting ourselves and allow other human beings to know and love the
real person each one of us is inside, rather than the inauthentic person we have
presented to the world until now. This is the only way to become ready to
receive and accept love from others.
Replace old protective behaviors that keep us isolated from others with new
behaviors that are more open and trusting.
There is ample room in our hearts to let others in, to let them see us for
who we are, and to let them love us.
Our thinking will change us when we realize that vulnerability exists in
others just as it does in us.
Once we realize that, by showing our true selves, we become vulnerable to
hurt, we will finally realize that we are all the same, and that each of us
contains a soul that desires to be loved.